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Masochist Bottom for Domestic Violence
Age 42 From Buffalo, New York - Online - Over 2 weeks ago
Man Seeking A Man

Basic Information

I Can Speak  
English
I Would Describe Myself As  
I was born plain white trash. After years of expensive education I am now white trash with a finely-tuned sense of irony. I'm queer, a freak pussy who likes pussy too. I can carry on a nuanced, informed conversation about art, politics, culture before you fuck me up. I want you to fuck me up. The more it hurts the more it means. I've got secrets I want to tell you and stories I need to play out. I'm searching for all my demons, all you devils and your deeds.
Sign  
Cancer

Appearance & Situation

My Body Type Is  
Average
My Height Is  
5' 9 (1.75 m)
My Eyes Are  
Green
My Ethnicity Is  
Caucasian
My Marital Situation Is  
Single
I Have Kids  
No
I Want Kids  
No
My Best Feature Is  
Eyes
Body Art  
Pierced... But Only Ear(s), Visible Tattoo
My Hair Is  
Auburn / Red
I Have One Or More Of These  
No pets
Willing To Relocate  
No

Status

My Education Level Is  
University Degree
My Current Employment Status Is  
Full-time
My Speciality Is  
Art / Music / Literature
My Job Title Is  
Graduate student/Composition instructor
I Make This Much In A Year  
$15,000USD To $29,999USD
I Live  
Alone
At Home  
All Is Calm
I'm A Smoker  
No
I Drink  
Yes - Socially

Personality

Back In High School, I Was A  
Quiet One
My Social Behavior Is  
Reserved, Observant, Dark
My Interest And Hobbies Are  
Reading, Learning, Music, Movies, Internet, Dancing, Family, Religion / Spirituality, Theater, Cooking
My Idea Of A Great Time Is  
Staying At Home, The Movies, Reading A Book, Going To A Concert, Going To A Museum
An Ideal First Date Would Be  
You pick me up. You smile at me, say hello. We go out for dinner, talk quietly. You charm me, take charge. We go to a movie, or maybe a concert. You hold my hand, put your arm around me. We go for a walk, or to a coffee house. We come back home. Together. You tilt my chin at the angle you want, lean in to kiss me. Whisper in my ear. Tell me what I need to hear.
I've Always Wanted To Try  
Dance classes (I've taken them before, in college, but I'd like to do more). Learning to speak French or German. Learning to play piano, or taking up the clarinet again (I played as a kid).
My Friends Describe Me As Being  
Raunchy, Obscure

Views

My Religion Is  
Agnostic
I Attend Services  
Never
My Political Views Are  
Very Liberal
My Goal In Life Is  
In terms of my career, I'm working towards my Ph.D. in English. From there, I intend to continue teaching at university, publishing a little. Eventually I'd like to move to Europe (Germany, ideally). As to my private life, who knows? If I map out the journey too soon I could miss seeing the forest for the trees.
My Kind Of Humor Is  
Clever, Dry / Sarcastic

Taste

On Tv, I Always Watch  
I Don't Like Tv
When I Go To The Movies, I Always Go To See A  
Drama
When Listening To Music, I Always Listen To  
Rock, Classical, Folk
When I Read, I Always Read  
Classic, Fiction, History, Music, Philosophy, Political, Poetry, I'm An Author
My Idea Of Fun Is  
Live music; could be a concert, the symphony, the opera. A local book reading or lecture. An afternoon at the museum. A dance performance. Great movies, on DVD at home or out at the cineplex. A night at the theater. A long walk in the park.

Looking for

What Do You Find Attractive?  
Intelligence, Good Looks, Humor, Great Skills, Sensitivity, Boldness, Oddities, Money, Power, Wit, Thoughtfullness
What Do You Look For?  
A guy who is into the psychology behind the sex, who gets off on inflicting emotional as well as physical pain; who likes to fuck with minds as much as he likes to fuck holes; who has a talent for humiliation, exploiting hidden shame, inspiring fear. I won't give up control easily. I'm too self-protected. Wreck my defenses. Take me deeper into my pain. Not into switch/vers guys or master/slave bullshit, which is just costumes and play-acting. There’s a big distinction between B&D (which is just weak posturing) and S&M (which I respond to much more deeply). I don't need to be tied up. Pain is more meaningful if I receive it as an act of will. Ropes, cuffs, hoods, all that bondage shit: a turnoff. If you need to restrain me or wear a special hat to get what you want I won't be impressed. I want a true sadist. Overpower me with your inner strength, your drive to see me break; your amused look as your hands are on my throat; your cold grin as you force me to tongue-clean your boots.
What Kind Of Relationship Are You Seeking?  
Date, Intimate, Committed
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